Dad overhears son saying he wants to come out, writes him a letter that goes viral

Dad overhears son saying he wants to come out, writes him a letter that goes viral

It isn’t easy being a teenager. Teenagers are halfway to adulthood and are working on figuring out who they are and what kind people they’re going to be. That inner battle surfaces when they act out and when they get emotional. We’ve all been there. What’s harder than being a teenager, however, is being a gay teenager.

Gay teenagers have all of the regular teenage issues that they have to go through and then they have a little something extra to work out. Firstly, they can be trying to sort out if they are indeed gay. If they are then they have to figure out how to come out to people and if it’s safe for them to do so. Will their parents reject them? It’s a real possibility, unfortunately. How will their friends and neighbors treat them? These are all questions that they have to wrestle with, and that’s a lot for anyone, let alone a teenager. This Dad’s response after overhearing his son saying he wants to come out is the response that every gay kid should receive.

Meet Nate

Nate is a teenager who is dating a boy named Mike. We don’t know too much about Nate, except that he’s scared to come out to his parents and that he’s on the phone with Mike discussing this. He’s worried about his parents’ response and what he’ll do if the conversation ends up going south. This is a fear that’s all too real for most gay kids and it shouldn’t be. Kids should be loved because they’re perfect just how they are. There’s nothing wrong with being gay. Nate’s Dad reminds him of this with his perfect response via a written letter that’s since gone viral.

 

Dad’s response

Nate’s Dad overhears part of Nate’s conversation with Mike and he knows that Nate wants to come out to him and his wife. He also knows how anxious Nate is about the whole thing, as well as how afraid he is, so he writes Nate a note. His note is the perfect example for every parent about how to handle your kid coming out:

Nate:

I overheard your phone conversation with Mike last night about your plans to come out to me. The only thing I need you to plan is to bring home OJ and bread after class. We are out, like you now.

I’ve known you were gay since you were six. I’ve loved you since you were born.

  • Dad

P.S. Your mom and I think you and Mike make a cute couple.

His response is epic. It’s no wonder that the letter has since gone viral. It shows a complete acceptance of his son. He even managed to throw in a dad joke about the OJ and the bread. You just can’t beat that.

Acceptance

It’s been two years since the Supreme Court ruled that gay marriage was legal and while that was a landmark ruling there’s still bigotry and hate out there in the world. It’s incredibly hard (especially in some parts of America) to be out as a gay individual. Gay people are more likely to be harassed and discriminated against solely based on their sexual orientation, which is not fair and not right. This is why parents’ responses like this one are so important. Accepting your child for who he or she is is what parenting is all about and this Dad showed that a good parent loves his or her kid no matter which gender the son or daughter prefers to kiss. If all parents could be so accepting the world would be such a different place. In the meantime, we’re incredibly glad that Nate has such an awesome dad (dad jokes and all) in his corner.

Help if you need it

It’s not easy to realize you’re gay and then to come out to your friends and family. There are few experiences more nerve-wracking than that. You can also end up feeling incredibly isolated while you sort out how you think and feel because you’re not sure whom you can talk to about it all. In this, you’re not alone. There are millions of teenagers out there who also feel the same way you do and who need to talk to someone. It’s because of this need that there are different places where you can reach out (anonymously if you need to) in order to get help, advice, or just a kind ear to listen to you.

The LGBT National Help Center is a great resource if you need to talk to someone about coming out, relationships, safe sex, and so many other topics. They have different hotlines for you to call and you’ll be talking to someone who understands and knows what you’re going through.

The Trevor Project is a great resource if you’re having a really hard time and have even thought about suicide. Please call them to get the help you need if you’ve started thinking this way. They’ll be able to help and to remind you that as awful of a time you’re having right now, it does indeed get better. It always gets better.

There’s no shame in asking for help if you need it. You can’t be expected to know all of the answers because you’re just figuring everything out. Ask for help if you need it.

Unfortunately, not everyone has an awesome Dad like Nate does. Perhaps one day everyone will. What a different kind of world that would be! In the meantime, a Dad’s response like this one should always end up going viral because it shows the perfect response filled with love and acceptance that every parent should have for his or her child. Kindness always wins and it’s important to share that kindness when we see it because the world could always use more of it.

And for any gay kids reading this and wishing they had a parent like Nate’s Dad, please know that there are people out there in this world who will love you for exactly who you are.